One of the usual cause of stress is because we worry too much. Most often we are stressed by other people's problem because we can't even distinguish which is which, our problem or other people's problem. A very good example is when we try to please other people by trying to be what they want us to be. But its actually their problem if they can't like you the way you are for you are just being you, so its actually their problem if they don't like you. If it so happen that you share some space with them, some chores with them, or some work with, be your self and let them handle the stress.
Parents usually are the most guilty about this things - they think you are the extension of their dreams. They think that since you are their children you should be thankful that you were given life and that you are obliged to follow their will on what to do with your life. Yet there are times when what they want is not what you want so you ran into conflict and at times made to feel the guilt of disobeying their wishes. In reality if they can't learn to let you go then that's their problem and not your problem. We only came through them and not from them - its God who decides who we should be, who our parents would be, what place and time, practically everything - so its not really our problem who and what we should really be. Life is just like connecting the dots, the last dot will define what kind of life we have lived. We just have to seek our own destiny.
I am not telling you guys that we should be bullheaded or we should disobey our parents. We should love and respect them, honor them for their sacrifices. But if it would mean living our life for them instead of our own, then we are not doing what we are destined to be. There are many ways of repaying them but being an extension of their dreams is certainly not one of them. To be in a life of not your own design is like being in prison with strings attached to move the way the puppet-master weave. Tell me, what would have become of Manny Pacquiao had he followed the wishes of her mother ? In his own words, maybe just a fisherman or a farmer or a bum living in the streets.
So the next time around try and figure out whose problem is it. If you love someone but she doesn't love you back and gets irritated when you ogle and follow her around, then that's her problem not yours. You just love loving her, if things doesn't work out just continue what you're doing until you find another love - she might even miss you when you're no longer around and again that's her problem. You can't understand what your teacher is teaching you, you tried but you just can't, then that's your teacher's problem 'cause maybe he's a lousy teacher. He should find ways to go down to your level and start from your level of understanding. If things still can't work out, then you can shift course or study other things. Remember, all the teachers of Albert Einstein in grade school thought he was stupid and hopeless but now the world remember Einstein and no one gives a damn what happened to his teachers.
If you can't understand your wife, then that's not a problem. Nobody really understand a woman - thousands of years have passed, but you still have to find one good analyst who can figure out what really goes inside a woman's mind. If you love your woman then she'll love you back so where's the problem. If your kids can't understand you, and you can't understand them, that's not really a problem. Families becomes real families when they solve problems together - as long as you do things because you love them, they will soon figure out what you are trying to do - just have faith, move on and wait. God will take of the rest so where's the problem ?
You're working hard but still you can't get out of the slump, still buried in debt, and people look down on you for being a failure - but come to think of it, what really is the problem ? You're alive, you enjoy life with your wife and kids, and the kids are doing fine and will soon graduate and have a life of their own. The problem is that your brothers and sisters who are living a secured life are disappointed with you, so with your parents. Your a pain-in-the-ass and at times a parasite to them, but you know that there are times when you just run out of alternative and have to ask for their help in order to get things through. So they say they worry about you but sometimes words meant to advise hurt because indeed you are what they say you are. But is that really a problem ? You feel hurt but those words were really meant to hurt to wake you up about the situation you're in. You only hope that maybe if they'd only understand the situation they would have said those things. Just stop fooling your self, the money they gave to help you was hard-earned and were meant for them, - you caused them a problem and you have to take the hurt. You thanked them with all you heart but they still aren't convinced, so it no longer becomes your problem if they can't feel your sincerity.
The point I am trying to make is that there really is no problem that truly exist in this world. There are problems but there are also real problems - but once you are able able to connect your self with your God there is no problem, only test of will and test of faith that will only give you the clues on which dots comes next. I am at a lost on how to explain the things I wanted to say - you need to experience how it is -to be on the ropes receiving all the blows directed on you and survive to fight another round. That's when the real excitement begins ...
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